about Mentor Manager, Mentor Parent
I have heard only positive comments from both
parents and staff in response to your presentation. Thanks for the
quality of the program you delivered. I used your book immediately
with a group of parents I had begun to meet with the same week. I
found your conceptual framework very helpful in discussing the use
of power in parent-child relationships. We will continue to refer to
your mentoring structure as we continue our weekly meetings.
It is very difficult to move smoothly over the course of 18 years or
so from parents needing to have 100% of the power and control over
the lives of their children to having virtually none. The structure
you offered provides a scaffolding--a way to smoothly transition to
a position of less and less control in order to develop our
children's abilities to accept control and responsibility over their
own lives. The emphasis upon relationship as the most essential
ingredient of parenting is so very important and sound.
Hilltop Elementary School
Edmonds (Washington) School District
Youíll find Mentor Manager /Mentor Parent a
Book that will help you get
inside of yourself to examine your preference when it comes to
responsibilities and relationships. Life is a series of
lived out in the context of relationships. Why not capitalize on the
insights of Linda Culp Downing and Cecile Culp Mielenz and use the
effective strategies? Youíll not only recognize the benefits at home
work, youíll use them.
PTA National Educator of the Year
The second greatest
gift a parent can give a child and the greatest gift a manager can
give an associate is learning. Mentor Manager, Mentor Parent
provides a huge array of tools, tips, techniques and tactics for
making that special gift an important and valuable contribution
to the lives of employees and/or children."
Chip R. Bell, Author
Managers as Mentors: Building Partnerships For Learning
I have been a manager for fifteen years and have always felt there
was a correlation between parenting and managing. This book does
an outstanding job explaining that correlation. My sister, an engineering
director for a local power company, said that she could tell by
the title that it was a worthy read.
Melinda Benefiel, VP Customer Service
Town North Bank Dallas, Texas
I love this book! It really helped me link what I know professionally
to what I should be doing with my girls. Before reading this book,
I had not thought to transfer my skills from my office to my home.
Now I learn skills to improve relationships in both contexts simultaneously.
Its so much more rewarding to develop my skills as mentor
rather than nagging mom. Thanks, Linda and Cecile!
Management and Communication Consultant
President, Performance Solutions
I am excited about this book on so many levels: as a child and family
therapist who has supervised others, as the wife of the president
of a large company, and as a parent. The authors have created a
simple, profound, and instructive model that gives form to many
conversations my husband and I have had regarding the congruence
between parenting and management. The heart of this model is the
belief that the skills which help leaders run successful companies
are the same skills that build relationships and encourage others
-- whether they be our children or employees -- to grow to their
Pam Hopkins, MSW
Child and Family Therapist
What a fantastic book! Linda and Cecile have done an incredible
job portraying the similarities among effective leadership skills
with effective parenting strategies. This book is a "must"
for any working parent!
Charlotte Hollarn, Director
Center for Early Childhood Professional Development
The University of Oklahoma, College of Continuing Education
Full of examples, Mentor Manager, Mentor Parent shows how
our talk reveals our style of parenting and managing others. Here
you will find powerful tools for respectfully fostering the healthy
development of another human being and many surprises around what
guides your behavior with others.
Educator and editor of Constructing the Self in a Mediated World
(with Tom Lindlorf)
Mentor Manager, Mentor Parent is filled with wisdom for transforming
the daily grind into golden moments--both at work and at home. The
authors have combined their unique professional experiences to provide
a systematic plan for choosing words and behaviors that will result
in more satisfied employees and more confident, competent children.
This is a most sensible and motivating book! A unique and important
Gloria DeGaetano, Director
The Parent Coaching Institute
Author, Screen Smarts: A Family Guide to Media Literacy and
Stop Teaching Our Kids to Kill: A Call to Action Against TV,
Movie, and Video Game Violence
The ideas expressed in this book unify two seemingly disparate arenas
of management-- the workplace and the homewith principles of
control and communication based on dignity and respect. Following
these principles has enhanced my effectiveness both as a father for
my two children and as a mentor for the members of my engineering
team. I have learned the importance of building healthy, positive
relationships with both my coworkers and my children. It is rare that
the benefits of reading a single book can be so universally applied.
Doug McAfee, Engineering Manager
The authors verify what we've suspected for years - that what we teach
in leadership, management, and coaching courses is closely related
to effective parenting. This is an excellent guide for refining our
skills as we help others grow and develop. I wish the book had been
available when I was a new father, a young supervisor, and a beginning
soccer coach. Each of my now-grown children will have a copy!
Peter C. Vail
Director, Executive Training & Team Quest Learning Services
The University of Oklahoma
I am extremely excited to recommend this book to parents! Not only
does the book provide great theoretical information for parents, it
provides TOOLS that parents can use in the throes of parenting situations.
This book takes the best of parenting theory and practice and presents
it in one neat package! Combining the theory and practice of management
and parenting is extremely helpful to both moms and dads. Working
parents often don't have the time to take parent education classes.
Showing the similarities between management and parenting encourages
parents to apply the skills they already have to the new challenge
MS Parent Educator Seattle, WA
I have found Mentor Manager, Mentor Parent to be of immense
value when parenting my own children, and when coaching children
in a classroom situation to gain conflict resolution skills. How
easy it is for parents and teachers alike to fall into the "boss"
mentality, ordering children around "because I say so."
Treating children with respect by being their mentor instead of
their boss pays huge dividends in the long run. As the children's
views are taken seriously, their opinions and feelings heard, their
input and ownership valued, they become active participants in conflict
resolution situations, and life! Mentor Manager, Mentor Parent gives
concrete skills to parents and educators alike, to become a mentor,
and by doing so, to give children not only the respect they deserve,
but also the people-people skills which are so often lacking in
The Attic Learning Community
I have read your book which arrived in my mailbox not long ago and
think it is terrific, as I knew it would be! Congratulations on
its success!! I appreciated reading the manager perspective/approach
and how it relates to parenting. I have always thought at work in
management situations how it is interesting how I tend to rely on
some of my parenting skills (the ones I credit you for). Now I have
a resource to help me do it even more successfully at work too!
I am anxious to have my company's (ICOS) H.R. department get your
book for our library and management training sorts of programs.
I have already recommended it to some of my fellow colleagues.
is beyond good; it is brilliant in conception (coupling management
and parenting); chapter layout; subhead layout; illustrating by
example; and writing. Itís packed but easy to read, closely
reasoned, concisely written.
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